Bad People As Driving Force

 

 As the title suggests this post is about the importance of bad people in our life.But first, I want to clarify that it is not some sort of spiritual lecture that says 'love your enemy' or 'forgiveness is the highest virtue'(though I'm not against it).And it's neither a war strategy to combat your enemy (that I might discuss in some other blog :) ) 

My purpose of writing this post is to alter your perspective about how you see the bad people.So that you could get maximum benefit from their presence & thrive not instead but because of them. 

We all have people in our life who are not so good,who are manipulative,treacherous & give us lot of mental & physical pain. It could be your boss, some relative or even a friend.We often complain about them. We sometimes think that the world would be much better if there would be no bad people.But is it true?
I’m going to deal with the two pertinent questions related to the bad people that we genrally ask.

Why has god created bad people who cause problems for the good ones?                                 The yin & yang are inseparable.If bad would not exist what would be the importance of good then?Actually it's the darker side that makes light really bright.Likewise if bad people did not exist,the challenge & charm of life will be gone.They help us mature,and make us more resistance & at the same time create sensitivity in us.If life were a bed of roses the mind would not have developed any awareness or sharpness to understand reality.If one does not get an opportunity to deal with complicated & difficult persons in life several faculties of the mind would not develop and the brain would not grow strong.So instead of despising individuals who create problems in our life, we should be thankful to them.Indirectly they contribute to our productivity.

What kind of treatment should be given to the bad?                                                                          'To the snake the guru advised not to bite anyone as the snake had turned into a devoted soul.But that does’t mean that it should stop hissing.Else others would kill it’.

Similarly,in self-defence one may have to put on a hard exterior despite being a kind & good person.The best thing one could do is to avoid them & remain at a safe distance from them.At the same time wish them no harm.At the most one may be careful so that there is minimum or no damage.

Without tough people & problems we won’t get better because we will then start thinking in a negative manner,causing harm to each other.And it has been observed time to time that destructive power of mind is much stronger then its constructive capacity.Problems are healthy for us as when we struggle,our efforts have a specific direction & objective.The mind concentrates & this enhances the ability of the mind to continue the journey.  

The following lines that I came across long time back,gives me inspiration & solace in my hard time.I’m presenting it to you with the same hope :                                                           “From dirt emerges the beautiful lotus,from the scorching heat comes the shower of relief and from the depth of pain springs joy”   

 Rajesh Tripathi 

(Educator & life coach) 

E.mail id : rajesh.leoleader@gmail.com