There are lots of extremely talented people who couldn’t
succeed to their full potential because of the lack of social intelligence. They
know their subject/work well, but lack the essential skills to deal with people
maneuvers.The real world is harsh & ruthless where lacking on social
intelligence is self deteriorating. Social intelligence & ability to create
positive influence is one of the key
skill to get success in the present world.
The following four strategies will help you to maintain rational
mind-set necessary for social intelligence & also helps you to create
positive influence on others.I have learned these strategies through my own
share of hardship & trails.I have applied(& still applying) these
strategies in my own life & experienced the positive results.I am telling you
this just to assured you that I won’t
suggest anything that I haven’t applied in my own life successfully.
1) Craft an attractive
persona
No matter how inappropriate it feels, but the reality is that-people
will always tend to judge you based on your outward appearance.If you are not
careful & simply assume that it is best to be yourself, then they will
begin to associate with you all kinds of qualities that have little to do with
who you are but correspond to what they want to see in you!
Below
are some tips that will help you to create an intriguing persona
a) Create mystery around you :
Don’t be like an open book! The moment you tell or show everything about you,
you will not only lose people interest but their respect also.
b) Dress well : Lots
of people think that outward appearance doesn’t matter much but in reality it
does! If you dress like poor,people will treat you like poor & if you dress
like wealthy,people will assume you wealthy & treat accordingly. So learn
style, class & create a unique personality
c) Always look
confident & calm: Confidence & ‘grace under pressure’ are two
magnetic traits that will attract people around you & motivate them to
follow you.And the good news is that these traits are lernable. Anyone can learn
it with some practice.
2) Your work is your
loudest voice!
Your work is one of the best way to express your social
intelligence. work that is solid not only project positive image, but also
protects you from the political conniving & malevolence of others as it is
hard to argue with the results you produce.
In spite of lots of external pressure if you
don’t lose your mind,remain focused & speak through your work ,you will not
only raise your skill, but also stand out among all the others who make a lot noise but do
nothing.
3) Suffer fools
happily
The world is full of fools who are ruled by their ego &
insecurities,& some of them will inevitably cross your road.The natural
tendency to fools is to lower yourself to their level.They annoy you ,get under
your skin,and draw you into a battle.In the process,you simply waste valuable
time & emotional energy.
To deal with foolish you have to understand that we all have our own ego
& foolishness.It is human nature.Seeing this foolishness in yourself,can
help you to accept it in others.It is all
part of the human comedy, & it is nothing to get upset about or lose sleep
over.
The
key here is to keep a steady eye on your goal & what is important, &
ignore the fools.
By internalizing all these traits you will be better equipped
to deal with the world & get on the fast track to success.
Rajesh Tripathi
(Educator & life coach)
E.mail
– rajesh.leoleader@gmail.com
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